Jez sat there letting Andreas' words ferment in her brain. Jez had to admit that Andrea had a somewhat valid point; maybe Jez did make bad choices when it came to being attracted to unattainable chunky men. She might have been supplementing her feeling of a less-than-ideal paternal experience, and supplementing it with her idealized version of a father figure.
Jez tried to recall her Psychology classes from the Academy; she remembered what Professor Harmond said.
There are a lot of possible psychological, emotional, social, and even biological reasons why some women are attracted to heavier older men. Attraction is highly individual, and usually it is a mix of factors rather than one single cause.
Some common reasons included but not limited to:
Perceived stability and security
Older men are often associated with emotional maturity, life experience, financial stability, calmness, or reliability. For some women, those traits feel grounding and attractive.
Comfort and warmth
A heavier body type can subconsciously signal softness, protection, warmth, or comfort. Some people simply find larger physiques physically comforting or reassuring.
“Safe masculinity”
Some women perceive heavier older men as less aggressive, less performative, or less emotionally volatile than younger, highly image-focused men. That can create a feeling of safety and ease.
Confidence and personality
Many attractive, heavier older men succeed socially because of humor, charisma, intelligence, kindness, confidence, or emotional attentiveness. Personality often becomes more important with age.
Fatherly or nurturing associations
Psychologically, some people are drawn to traits associated with caretaking, patience, wisdom, or protectiveness. Older, heavier men can sometimes unconsciously evoke those qualities.
Preference shaped by experience or upbringing
Attraction patterns are influenced by early experiences, family dynamics, media exposure, culture, and past relationships. Someone who grew up around affectionate, larger men may genuinely associate that body type with positive emotions.
Rebellion against conventional beauty standards
Not everyone is attracted to youthful, athletic ideals. Some women actively prefer men who look experienced, relaxed, rugged, or unconventional.
Biological and evolutionary influences
In evolutionary psychology, signs of resource stability, status, experience, and social competence can influence attraction. Different people weigh those signals differently.
It is also important to remember:
Attraction is not always “explained” by pathology or hidden issues.
A preference for heavier older men is not inherently unusual or unhealthy.
Many people simply have authentic physical preferences, just as others prefer tall, slim, muscular, younger, or older partners.
There is also a cultural archetype around this — the “big older guy” who is funny, confident, successful, emotionally steady, or protective. That combination can be very compelling to some people.
It made sense, maybe on a deeper emotional level, Jez was looking to build a family for her that included an involved protective father figure? For crying out loud the word father practically spelled it out FATher, That’s when Mike’s image filled her mind, like watching a holographic documentary of her and Mike’s interactions over the years, their sparing sessions, him showing her the proper technique in a Spinning Back Kick, the times he was her unwilling dance partner, her Father Confessor, her best girlfriend, the one person her trusted implicitly and she had just screamed in his face, rejecting the one man she held in the highest regards.
“Andrea, what if I have damaged my relationship with Ted… I mean, MIKE beyond repair? What if he never forgives me?” Stated Jez with her voice filled with a mixture of sadness and regret.
== Tag Andrea/Talion .==
Jez tried to recall her Psychology classes from the Academy; she remembered what Professor Harmond said.
There are a lot of possible psychological, emotional, social, and even biological reasons why some women are attracted to heavier older men. Attraction is highly individual, and usually it is a mix of factors rather than one single cause.
Some common reasons included but not limited to:
Perceived stability and security
Older men are often associated with emotional maturity, life experience, financial stability, calmness, or reliability. For some women, those traits feel grounding and attractive.
Comfort and warmth
A heavier body type can subconsciously signal softness, protection, warmth, or comfort. Some people simply find larger physiques physically comforting or reassuring.
“Safe masculinity”
Some women perceive heavier older men as less aggressive, less performative, or less emotionally volatile than younger, highly image-focused men. That can create a feeling of safety and ease.
Confidence and personality
Many attractive, heavier older men succeed socially because of humor, charisma, intelligence, kindness, confidence, or emotional attentiveness. Personality often becomes more important with age.
Fatherly or nurturing associations
Psychologically, some people are drawn to traits associated with caretaking, patience, wisdom, or protectiveness. Older, heavier men can sometimes unconsciously evoke those qualities.
Preference shaped by experience or upbringing
Attraction patterns are influenced by early experiences, family dynamics, media exposure, culture, and past relationships. Someone who grew up around affectionate, larger men may genuinely associate that body type with positive emotions.
Rebellion against conventional beauty standards
Not everyone is attracted to youthful, athletic ideals. Some women actively prefer men who look experienced, relaxed, rugged, or unconventional.
Biological and evolutionary influences
In evolutionary psychology, signs of resource stability, status, experience, and social competence can influence attraction. Different people weigh those signals differently.
It is also important to remember:
Attraction is not always “explained” by pathology or hidden issues.
A preference for heavier older men is not inherently unusual or unhealthy.
Many people simply have authentic physical preferences, just as others prefer tall, slim, muscular, younger, or older partners.
There is also a cultural archetype around this — the “big older guy” who is funny, confident, successful, emotionally steady, or protective. That combination can be very compelling to some people.
It made sense, maybe on a deeper emotional level, Jez was looking to build a family for her that included an involved protective father figure? For crying out loud the word father practically spelled it out FATher, That’s when Mike’s image filled her mind, like watching a holographic documentary of her and Mike’s interactions over the years, their sparing sessions, him showing her the proper technique in a Spinning Back Kick, the times he was her unwilling dance partner, her Father Confessor, her best girlfriend, the one person her trusted implicitly and she had just screamed in his face, rejecting the one man she held in the highest regards.
“Andrea, what if I have damaged my relationship with Ted… I mean, MIKE beyond repair? What if he never forgives me?” Stated Jez with her voice filled with a mixture of sadness and regret.
== Tag Andrea/Talion .==